ALBANY, N.Y. (NEWS10) — Today’s 98.3 TRY Social Dilemma is about weight loss and compliments…or are they insults? Here’s the email:
Hi Jaime, I really would love it if this could be your social dilemma. I am 52 years old and about to be remarried. When we started planning the wedding I was overweight according to my doctor, so I decided it was time to start eating healthy and exercising as much as I could. Since then, I’ve lost about 35 pounds, and I’m in great shape. I didn’t do it because I’m getting remarried, I did it because my doctor recommended it. Since I’ve lost the weight, everyone who hasn’t seen me in a while, says things like “wow I can’t believe how much weight you lost” and I’m starting to get offended by it. Why can’t people just say, you look great? Some even ask me how much weight I lost. Now I’m feeling like it’s an insult, not a compliment. Did I look horrible before? Is this how much emphasis is put on weight? Am I thinking too much or am I being insulted? Thanks for the help.
This is a tough one. I think people mean well when they’re telling Erin they notice the weight loss, but I do understand what she means. There is a lot of focus on weight these days, and not health. But that’s just my opinion.
What do you think? Are people insulting Erin, or in their own way, are they complimenting her? Let’s help her out and let me know on the TRY Facebook page.